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Why Can’t A Man Be More Like A Woman?

“Babygirl” explained

“A new definition of the term ‘babygirl’ has recently been adopted,” The New York Post reports, “remaining as a term of endearment but expanding to include a specific type of swoon-worthy man.” Wait. What?

“Babygirl” Defined

So what’s the definition of this new non-pejorative sobriquet of which The Post speaks?

A man who is “babygirl” comes across as sweet, charming, a bit bashful and seemingly in touch with their feminine side, ready to talk about their feelings or carry a purse to brunch at any point. It’s exactly what women want and men want to become — the antithesis of toxic macho masculinity.

That’s quite a bold statement, based on zero survey data, leaving no room for debate, assuming that “toxic macho masculinity” is a thing.

A bad, bad thing. Yes, OK, sure. If you say so. But what exactly is it?

Toxic Macho Masculinity Defined

As the author leaves that one hanging (so to speak), we’re forced to turn to the ultimate authority on all things PC: Monica AI.

Toxic macho masculinity refers to the notion that some people's idea of "manliness" perpetuates domination, homophobia, and aggression. It involves cultural pressures for men to behave in a certain way, often teaching boys that they can't express emotion openly and that they have to be "tough all the time."

Men as violent, emotionally-repressed repressed homosexuals.

As opposed to men who are open with their feelings and feel free to wear traditionally feminine clothing and accoutrements.


Elordi’s purses, Pascal’s shorts and Chalamet’s sequins have these men proudly parading their traditionally feminine touches — and admirers are loving it in return.

Ba-da-ba-ba-ba! As my father used to say, it takes all kinds to fill-up the freeways. As Chef Boyardee used to say, chef don’t judge.

That said, clothes do not maketh the man. Judging a man on his murse is as shallow as judging him on his Ford Raptor. Who would do such a thing?

Adriana Diaz

Ms. Diaz (above) is the Manhattan-based writer who feels free to speak for all womanhood on the babygirl front.

Lest misogyny lead you to discount Ms. Diaz’s babygirl cheerleading as trustafarian tripe, the Boston University grad found a man to back-up babygirl boosterism.

“I think the definition of what is masculine is changing,” Adam Cohen-Aslatei, director of Tawkify matchmaking service, told The Post. “Some traditional norms are shifting. “Masculinity today is not about being a tough guy but about being honest, respectful, protective and emotionally expressive.”

Now That You Menschen It…

Where did that come from? Tradition!

The Tawkify boss is a Cohen – a descendant of Moses’ brother Aaron, possessing special religious responsibilities and privileges.

As a Cohen, Adam Cohen-Aslatei (above left) should know that the masculinity he describes is nothing new or rad.

The word of the day – past, present and future – is “mensch.” Perplexity AI is our guide:

In Jewish tradition, a "mensch" is a term used to describe a person of integrity and honor, someone who embodies noble character and acts with kindness, decency, wisdom, honesty, trustworthiness, respect, benevolence, compassion, and altruism. The word "mensch" originates from Yiddish and means "a decent human being.” Being a mensch involves acting with kindness, showing compassion, and recognizing the special qualities in oneself and others. It is about striving to be a good person who treats others with respect and empathy. In essence, a mensch is someone to admire and emulate for their positive qualities and actions.

Not mentioned: a mensch’s willingness to sacrifice his life, to fight for what he believes in. Yes, fight. You got a problem with that not-so-tough guy?

The War Between the Sexes

The babygirl movement represents a new front in the war between the sexes. Or does it?

My friend Michael sees Ms. Diaz’s pro-babygirl polemic as part of a longstanding campaign to emasculate men.

Modern feminism suppresses male instincts for personal gain, neutering a gender which they don't understand to solve a problem they don't have. Their desire for power leads them to manipulate young men into not exploring their masculine traits by pre-shaming and grooming, while urging young women to be as controlling as possible.

My two cents: boys will be boys. If you let them. With the proper moral guidance, that’s a good thing, not a bad, bad thing.

And FWIW, if a woman called me “babygirl” I’d consider it an insult to my non-toxic slightly macho masculinity.

Unless she was using the term in a playful, teasing way. Which I’d be happy to entertain. Once. Which isn’t very mensch-like of me, is it?


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